Hmmm - interesting. I hadn’t bothered to check before now, but I’m seeing something similar on one of the two PBS CTs I run.

Comparing the output of netstat -lantop on both CTs, I can see that the one with more outbound traffic has more waiting connections from localhost on port 82, the port Proxmox Backup Servers provides its API over:

tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:51562         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (40.38/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:56342         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (29.92/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:44864         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (58.94/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:45028         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (11.88/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:44026         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (48.66/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:44852         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (58.80/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:59620         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (0.00/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:56374         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (30.98/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:51544         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (39.98/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:59642         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (0.00/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:45008         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (10.92/0/0)
tcp        0      0 127.0.0.1:45016         127.0.0.1:82            TIME_WAIT   -                    timewait (11.76/0/0)

I’m wondering if the graph is pulling aggregated network data, including the loopback interface. If so, and it’s all just port 82 stuff on 127.0.0.1, then it’s probably nothing to worry about.

Edit: found this forum post that seems to indicate it’s aggregating all the byte values from /proc/dev/net, so this is probably nothing to worry about if your netstat output, like mine, only shows API conections to/from 127.0.0.1 on port 82.

Seriously - the whole thing is such a befuddling mess to us non-Americans.

How exactly can one win the popular vote but not the actual election? From the outside, the reporting I’ve seen always talks about the faithless elector problem (not in those words - just in describing the problems). Is it more to do with how many votes (electors) each state gets, based on population size?

Nah - it’s at least partly correct.

I believe the states responsible for those silly outcomes have since passed laws to prevent it happening again.

Could be wrong, but I listened to a podcast last week with an American professor who’s pretty much written the book, explaining the history of the Electoral College and how it really works. I’m sure he said those states since fixed those loopholes.

Either way, the damage is done today. Another four years of stupidity in charge.

Maybe a small piece of personalised luggage for the holiday. Does she wear makeup? Maybe a nice makeup case with her initials on it.

If that’s not her thing, what about something for your home (assuming you live together)? My wife and I tend to buy ourselves the “bigger” things for Christmas, as our gift to each other - some furniture we’ve been wanting, or similar.

If that doesn’t sounds like you guys, there’s the tried and true jewelry option. Or maybe just cruise Etsy for the sorts of things she likes (does she like knick knacks, or ornamental stuff?) that might be customisable.

Failing that, have a think about what makes you special as a couple. Is there a shared interest or experience that got you together or you always talk about? Is there something in that?

Finally, I’ve been holding on to some ideas for future inspiration should I need them:

• Waveform art: record yourself saying you love her, have the waveform turned into a print, or a piece of jewelry, or similar
• Anamorphic art: a skewed picture that reveals itself when a specifically shaped mirror is put behind it
• A glass lamp base filled with something meaningful: I always thought of filling one with origami love hearts
• Ambigrams: maybe you can figure out an ambigram with both your names, and have it made into something - a print or a wood carving (this will probably take a lot longer than the time you have before Christmas)
• Birth stones, star signs, birth flowers, birth fruit: admittedly these are probably better suited to birthdays

This old thing - a Barmah Squashy hate, made from Kangaroo leather. I clearly don’t regularly treat it with leather conditioner like they tell you to.

This hat is my constant companion whenever I go camping. We’re literally tomorrow leaving for a three week trip through the Outback, so it’s about to get a lot of use.

A lot less VCDs and MP3s downloaded from FTP servers and BBSes.

Not sure if I’d bring it back, but I sure do miss the fun of playing Quake against my mates on public servers.

Hoping someone more in the know can explain this to me. Could commissioning an art piece feasibly mean you’ve paid for that art to be yours? Are there types of contracts available when commissioning art pieces where, conceivably, the person commissioning the piece gets the rights to use it for other things?

I’m not across the legal and ethical aspects of commissioning art pieces, and neither the article or the DA post gives any additional detail. Just wondering if the “Josh” who the artist named in their DeviantArt post be someone who was involved in the Nerf gun somehow…

No judgement here, and my wife has always said she never judges how anyone gives birth.

Question was asked. I answered. That is all.

Watching her give birth to our daughter. No drugs. Just natural child birth (in a hospital).

Years later, discussing childbirth with her (now) 20yo daughter (my step daughter), when asked why she did it that way for all three of her kids, she simply said it was something she wanted go go through, to feel connected to the experience of having her kids.

Awe and pride don’t even begin to explain what I felt (and still feel) for my wife.

Not sure where you’re located,but we have https://www.productreview.com.au here in Australia. I’ve occasionally found it useful.

Well, thanks for the fall down that particularly horrifying rabbit hole. I can only imagine the pain these women went through, given this was at a time that predates anaesthesia.

If your strategy as an employer is how to keep your people in indentured servitude, that makes you a cunt. Be a good boss - help your employees achieve their goals and get to the next step in their career. That will help you attract newer talent when you need it.

The casting bit is the missing piece for me.

I’ve built a RasPi with Kodi for our caravan, to use Plex and stream our free-to-air TV here in Australia (using Musk’s space innernets). I just miss being able to cast from my phone, for the occasional thing I can’t do with a Kodi add-on.

Here in Australia, it’s costing our family of five about $100k a year to live, excluding our mortgage. 4% return ($80K) is conservatively realistic here (for low risk investment), and still isn’t enough.

Like I said, while it would’ve set me up with a house and no debt, I’d still have to work to pay for the cost of living.

In my mind, rich means not having to work again. A couple million doesn’t even get close, sadly.

Nearly 30 years ago, I worked for a tiny li’l anti-virus software company that got acquired by one of the big boys, and everyone’s performance-based options they were holding were suddenly worth a lot. Being hungry for career growth at the time, I’d left the company and forfeited those options. Less than 6 months later, they announced the sale of the company.

My options woulda been worth a few million at the time, maybe double that in today’s money. Importantly, it would’ve set me up with a nice house, car, etc, without any debt, in my early 20s.

Not rich, but certainly comfortable.

Oh man - hard disagree on this one for me. Still rates up there as one of the best adventure franchises of all time. We rewatch the trilogy as a family at least once every year or two, and always (re)notice awesome little easter eggs each time.

Plus, entirely safe for family viewing. It’s getting harder and harder to find movies series like that where the teenagers will still enjoy it, and the young 'un can get into it.

Honestly, I’m not sure. You might still be partly right, though.

The Anglican church originated from the Church of England which was created by (the formerly Catholic) Henry VIII, when the Pope wouldn’t annul his marriage to Catherine of Aragon.

Just evidence, as always, of religion being used to further a powerful person’s agenda.

No, it’s not just Catholics who take communion.

Source: Mum tried to raise me Anglican.