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Cake day: 2025年12月26日

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  • Personally I grew up being taught by a bunch of older 2nd wave feminists, so the messaging I received was a lot of “A woman is anything she wants to be.” Cue picture of Rosie the Riveter repairing a truck or something. I wonder if you maybe didn’t have the best relationships with the women around you growing up? Because personally, I’ve just always felt more comfortable with women. When I was a kid, women were more inclusive with me and easier to talk with, and I think the moments where women segregated from men, where it was just me and a group of grandmas in the kitchen or something, were really formative for the development of my feminine identity.




  • This is very much a “You don’t know what you don’t know” kind of situation.

    I once read a case about a physicians assistant who worked under a bariatric surgeon for 15 years. After completing thousands of bariatric surgeries under the surgeon, he started his own clinic and hired a “supervising surgeon” who was retired and never there. Meaning, even though he was not a doctor, he was acting as the only surgeon. He botched botched dozens of surgeries, he caused pain and suffering to dozens of other people. He had no idea what the surgeon was doing that he wasn’t, because he wasn’t trained to perform that role. Instead of recognizing he couldn’t do it, he just assumed he knew anything necessary.

    People take that approach to a lot of things. Very common in the law for people to look something on chatgpt and get mad at their lawyer for not following completely non-sensical advice.



  • The adults around you don’t expect anything more from you than for you to be a teenager. When I was a teenager, I spent a lot of time comparing myself to others. Because many teenagers are smarter, more diligent, accomplished, friendly, etc. that no one would ever want to pick me. When really all anyone wants from you is for you to be on time, polite, and ready to learn. They’ll figure out something for you to do. Every adult around you was once a teenager who knew nothing until someone showed them how to do a job.













  • By the time the majority realizes they should leave, it’ll be too late. That’s just how authoritarianism works.

    I am conflicted myself, but keep in mind why they are doing this. They know they lost the future generations and can’t win them back. Democrats have a massive majority of millennials and gen-z. These people are making their final power plays from their retirement homes and sick beds. We have decades to fix what they broke and make something new.

    There are struggles with leaving. There are struggles with staying. You’re not wrong to leave if you can, but I think there’s a case for staying.