toxic masculinity, tons of people aware of the bad things but most people think its taboo for men to think about their social reformation.
Some of my more well versed lady friends basically describe it like “the women can’t do all the social reformation, men gotta do their part too”
Would be nice to make this thread into a list of resources, like groups, YouTube channels, websites, books, whatever.
It would be very helpful to define these things for people too I think, I don’t think there is a name for men’s social revolution yet, or at least one that is well known.
I think it would be great if more men read (or just read summaries of) basic feminist texts, especially Judith Butler and people of her ilk. Before I realised I wasn’t a man they helped me. I think the deconstruction of gender that feminism offers serve men just as much as women - it made masculinity feel like less of a prison (nevermind that I ultimately largely moved more feminine).
I remember reading authors like John Stoltenberg, the aforementioned Judith Butler, and some perspectives of feminism/masculinity in a working class context.
I think too many people treat masculinity as specific things. This was a quote I stumbled upon just now.
“Masculinity is not the opposite of femininity, but rather the opposite of boyish immaturity”
Like flowers as a gift for example, everyone can enjoy this, the semantics of how it is enjoyed is different for different people.