Mondays are okay now and the depressed sunday completely vanished.
I was talking to some friends once on a Sunday and they were being a bit quiet so I asked what was up and they said they had the “Sunday Scaries.” I had to inquire what the sunday scaries were and bashfully noted that I’ve never felt that before. Made me realize how much I love doing what I do!
Dang. I’ve heard of the Sunday sads, but scaries is a whole different level.
I used to have that every day of the week. Anxiety attacks were my alarm clock, typically 2 hours before I needed to be up with no chance of getting back to sleep. I stuck it out for 2 years.
Now when I start getting that I make note. If it continues for more than a few months, I quit. (I’ve never been stable even when I took shit, so what difference does it make?)
It’s not stable, but nothing about the present system is stable, and I’d rather be unstable on my terms than theirs.
I was considering posting “Thank god it’s monday” on casual conversation earlier today, as that usually means peace of mind with kids back in school, SO at her job, and I at home working remotely.
Remote work so drastically changes the equation for me.
Buying clothes without missing buttons or holes in em was cool.
Being able to rent an apartment where there was 1 couple per bedroom also, very nice.
Not having to steal food whenever I could, also, a lot easier. That tension headache I carried for like five years melted.
Stability. Not having to worry if my job is still secure by next year is such a sweet feeling.
I might not earn as much as I could, but knowing that I have secured a good income all the way to my pension (barring any calamities) is definitely worth it.
Did you get tenure?
No, I got a permanent contract for a well paying job in the public sector. The job security is great and there’s a solid pension plan.
It’s what my partner likes to call an “iron rice bowl” :)
Being able to have car trouble and… not be stressed about it. Chill bosses so i can take the day off without issue, good financial position to deal with it and not panic about money.
Shits nice, this is literally my day today lol
I no longer tense up at every single notification from my phone. And my weight has stabilized because I’m no longer stress eating.
So fucking much. Less stress and dread. I moved to an area I like much more. I bought a roomba with my first paycheck so I could automate keeping the floors clean. I just about had a breakdown when I got sick and my boss supported me staying home instead of chastising me for calling out. People listen to my ideas and take action on the good ones. I feel confident because I’m trusted to just do the shit I know I’m supposed to do. Advancement opportunities are basically just expected when something opens up.
Because I’m not so stressed out or spread thin in my work hours, I’m better able to enjoy my off hours. I cook. I play music. I play games with my friends online. I take my wife out on dates. I can afford to plan for things in the future instead of just surviving day to day and collapsing when I can.
My job isn’t amazing btw. It’s rotating shift work, frequently swapping between day shift and night shift, 12 hour shifts. It’s pretty unpredictable because it can be incredibly active and exhausting or maybe I’ll sit on my ass for a few hours at a time. I can get very dirty or sore or cramped if things aren’t super smooth. I’m outside in the elements a decent amount. And the healthcare is so lame that my wife gets us better healthcare by working at Starbucks for >20 hours per week. But unless I need to cover for somebody or there’s some kind of emergency, I get 7 days off in a row every 4 weeks. That and the high pay are where the peace of mind comes from.
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The quality of life that came with a regular schedule (having all weekends off!) and the higher salary is immeasurable. I am not stressed about money anymore and I have time to do activities with friends and family.
I got to work from home, got to improve my home office setup, and I have been able to buy a house. I love being able to live with my wife and partner and being able to not freakout about a surprise bill.
Wife _and_partner?
