‘Be nice’ is a great idea in concept but when it comes down to concrete justification for post deletions and bans, it just becomes a general tool of oppression
Simply disagreeing with a political position has triggered rule #1 bans and removals across several subs, Gaza is a great example of this.
If we just want to keep pretending that mods are any different here than reddit, then they need to be held to a better degree of responsibility when it comes to their abuse of overly broad definitions.
I know exactly what you mean (and I’m very familiar with the behaviour in real life), but I can’t say I’ve personally seen it on Lemmy. I know a lot of it depends on what you’re subscribed to or federated with, but rather than “100% arseholes” I felt Lemmy was more like “95% pretty nice people”.