Yeah, when it’s the social norm to greet someone and not talk about personal issues, it’s very strange to be asked “how’s it going,” and not respond “good” or “not bad” as you have been for years as an automated response.
Takes time to realize that the person asking that isn’t making small talk, but is trying to help and it’s a genuine question.
Fuck all that shit, most of the time I answer anyone who asks how I’m going honestly. If you ask how I’m doing, you get to hear about my finances, what video game I’ve been playing, or how my partner is doing.
Yeah, when it’s the social norm to greet someone and not talk about personal issues, it’s very strange to be asked “how’s it going,” and not respond “good” or “not bad” as you have been for years as an automated response.
Takes time to realize that the person asking that isn’t making small talk, but is trying to help and it’s a genuine question.
There are sooooooo many people who will respond very seriously to a slight changeup of your wording.
For example if you say “how is today treating you?” They tell you, like 60% of the time. In great detail.
It short circuits their brain and skips pleasantry mode.
It’s fucking fascinating to use as an opener.
Fuck all that shit, most of the time I answer anyone who asks how I’m going honestly. If you ask how I’m doing, you get to hear about my finances, what video game I’ve been playing, or how my partner is doing.