This is just how the societal structure works nowadays due to atomization, the death of extended family and the local community.

Before all that happened, people actually interacted with their close neighbors (who were also often family members) on the daily, forged relationships and trust with them. It wasn’t a question of “bringing trustworthy adults into a child’s life”, it was actually “bringing a child into an already existing close-knit community”. Common everyday tasks (one of them is looking after children) were often shared between community members so that noone got overwhelmed.

Of course there are many benefits to modern societal and tech advances too, it’s a fucking miracle that a single mother can raise a child at all, with little or no family support. 200 years ago the child would be dead or sent off to an orphanage.

I say we should combine the powers of both: bring back the local community to raise children together, and keep the technical progress and societal guardrails we’ve made to make it a lot easier.