• psycotica0@lemmy.ca
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    9 days ago

    We don’t know that’s what he did, there aren’t even timestamps on this. If I text you a joke now, and then don’t get anything back, and then I send you a follow-up text saying “I was just joking”, and then sometime after that you get back to your phone and see the joke and the follow-up, no one can assume you only texted because of the follow-up.

    Maybe you got my first one and said “screw them” and waited for an apology, maybe you didn’t get the first one until after the second had been sent and saw them both together and replied to both, or maybe you saw the first and went “heh” but forgot to actually respond to me in the moment, and it wasn’t until after the second came through that you went “ah shit, right”

    But only the receiver can know which is which.

    Anyways! I don’t give a shit about Tiger Woods, I just hate miscommunication and assumptions of ill-intent, and I’ve seen first hand too many times a person who is more connected drawing all sorts of conclusions for what a silence might mean, or how mad someone must be, or reading into a gap that simply isn’t there. The receiver just is doing something, they’re not on their couch staring at their phone, and the sender is spinning out all sorts of stories to explain how they’re being ignored or attacked. It’s anxiety.

    • velma@lemmy.blahaj.zoneBanned from community
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      9 days ago

      Ah, you’re all projecting and being defensive about texting. I see.

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            9 days ago

            Where did I defend him? All I said was you are projecting. Which you are. So are the people you’re arguing with. He may have been leaving her on read because he was pissed like you say or he may have done it because he had other shit going on while he was texting her and got distracted. Either is a perfectly plausible explanation.

            I don’t hate women. Tiger Woods is an asshole. You’re a hypocrite.

            • velma@lemmy.blahaj.zoneBanned from community
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              9 days ago

              Either is a perfectly plausible explanation.

              You’re all up my ass for no reason then.

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                9 days ago

                Because you’re presenting one side of it as if it’s the truth. Acting like “the silent treatment” is the only reason a person may be delayed in responding to a text is toxic as fuck.

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                  9 days ago

                  I dunno, giving a partner the silent treatment until they say the “correct” thing seems icky.

                  I guess it all checks out with the cheating and drunk driving.

                  Do you understand what the word “seems” means in this context?

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                    9 days ago

                    Your statement reads that he was for sure giving her the silent treatment and that doing so “seems icky”.

                    We do not know that he was giving her the silent treatment. That was your projection.

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                  I’m going to help you out a little bit here:

                  The verb “seem” means to give a certain impression, appear, or look a certain way. It is used to describe how a person, object, or situation is perceived, especially when conveying a subjective feeling or an observation that may differ from reality.