I cheated once, in a relationship that had a dead bedroom for years before (her choice), and the moment that happened i walked up to my ex and confessed what happened. She understandably was hurt for a moment, but after some dialogue she realized that this came from a deep sense of feeling abandoned by her, which was the reality of our situation. For her it was always more about parties, concerts and festivals and having someone for that, and when i couldn’t deal with the perma-party anymore, she lost interest in me, while still feeling obligated to not just leave me behind.
I never watched Desperate Housewives with anyone tho, it was more Breaking Bad and Battlestar Galactica lol, and the pet names were “MausMaus” and “Schatz” - “Mousemouse” and “Treasure”. Nowadays i’d prefer if someone used my real name in a caring way.
I would never have cheated if i felt in any way physically appreciated in the years before. The temptation wouldn’t have been there in any way if my ex had show interest in me in any way the months before out breakup - it’s not that i didn’t try to make her as comfortable as possible. I am someone who needs physical appreciation (not even sex - just cuddling would have been enough to feel connected), but that simply wasn’t available, and i latched onto someone who cared about my physical and mental needs. I’m not proud about what i’ve done, but it was simply the trigger that made us both realize we needed different things than what we were offering to each other.
I cheated once, in a relationship that had a dead bedroom for years before (her choice), and the moment that happened i walked up to my ex and confessed what happened. She understandably was hurt for a moment, but after some dialogue she realized that this came from a deep sense of feeling abandoned by her, which was the reality of our situation. For her it was always more about parties, concerts and festivals and having someone for that, and when i couldn’t deal with the perma-party anymore, she lost interest in me, while still feeling obligated to not just leave me behind.
I never watched Desperate Housewives with anyone tho, it was more Breaking Bad and Battlestar Galactica lol, and the pet names were “MausMaus” and “Schatz” - “Mousemouse” and “Treasure”. Nowadays i’d prefer if someone used my real name in a caring way.
Only German would make the word for “treasure” sound like an intestinal condition that causes you to call out of work
I can’t advocate cheating, but I care about you.
I loved Desperate Housewives and Battlestar Galactica.
I would never have cheated if i felt in any way physically appreciated in the years before. The temptation wouldn’t have been there in any way if my ex had show interest in me in any way the months before out breakup - it’s not that i didn’t try to make her as comfortable as possible. I am someone who needs physical appreciation (not even sex - just cuddling would have been enough to feel connected), but that simply wasn’t available, and i latched onto someone who cared about my physical and mental needs. I’m not proud about what i’ve done, but it was simply the trigger that made us both realize we needed different things than what we were offering to each other.