• did_you_find_violets@lemmy.worldOP
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    2 months ago

    a self proclaimed kinky guy told me that me rimming him is “too much” for him. wdym too much that’s super basic😵‍💫

    • halcyoncmdr@piefed.social
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      2 months ago

      I can understand someone drawing a line between the playground and sewage facility when it comes to putting things in their mouth… But that’s not really the same on the receiving end.

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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        I’m going to want to kiss the person I’m fucking and if their mouth has been on an asshole I’m not going to do that. Sorry, it grosses me out and it isn’t as good as using it on my dick anyway.

      • QuizzaciousOtter@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        I would be okay with the strap-on but not with rimming. As another reply says, some people just don’t like the butt-mouth combination. I’m one of them.

    • Jaycifer@piefed.social
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      I put my partner in a hypnotic trance, crossdressed as a witch, “brewed” an aphrodisiac potion, fed it to them and then myself, cast a “spell” to freeze them in place, then fucked them with a tentacle that I “summoned,” but I can’t be kinky because I’m not a fan of applying lipshit. I’m glad you know what you like, but I think it’s good to recognize that kinks are by definition often very specific, and there are therefore so many different meanings a person can have when they describe themself as kinky. If someone tells you they’re kinky and the first thing you do isn’t clarify what kinks they have, that’s a communication issue, not something to shame them for. You don’t even know if they’re into shaming at that point!

      • anton2492@lemmy.nz
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        2 months ago

        Thank you, was going to respond with something similar.

        We don’t yuck others’ yums, but we also shouldn’t yuck their lack of our yums. Being kinky is not some linear progress bar you fill, it’s an incredibly varied spectrum of things that may or may not make us tick to any degree.

        To that effect, as with Jaycifer here, my play is mostly mental - the physical stuff matters less, and things like rimming aren’t even on the invite list.

        So gtfo here with all that “if you don’t like this then you aren’t kinky enough” shaming bullshit. Because it comes in so many forms, and that’s the awesome fucking part.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      I mean as a woman, I’ll gladly be beaten, I play with electricity and fire, and I’ve been in the leather community and power exchange scene most of my adult life, but rimming will take some convincing

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          Ok yeah if someone wanted to do that to me I might give it a shot. But yeah I wouldn’t be happy if she did it to me without a heads up

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              Like, yeah I’m definitely not giving it, that’s not up for debate though. Receiving is where there’s room to discuss.

              And it’s not like I’ve never done butt stuff, it’s just that I’ve learned to accept that I just generally prefer to stick to the other side. Especially now that I’m getting older and dealing with hemorrhoids. These days I feel butts are for hitting, grabbing, and displaying handkerchiefs.

    • KuroiKaze@lemmy.world
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      Haha hilarious that your responses confirmed your thesis sadly. Eating ass is default in 26 y’all.