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  • That’s a common reaction to things too difficult to rationalize otherwise: apathy.

    If you want to feign sympathy because you think it’ll make you look good, go for it.

    Dale Carnegie might encourage you to accept the worst possible outcome -really accept it- then try to improve upon it. And keep trying to improve upon it.

    This goes hand in hand with ACT - acceptance and commitment therapy - which is a common method used to help people deal with grief and getting unstuck (overcoming anxiety, fears, etc.), and acceptance is the critical first step. Once you really accept things, that gives you the foundation for commitments to improve the situation.

    And they don’t necessarily have to be related. You could accept that your partner has dumped you and your commitment might be moving onward with your life by taking/investing time for yourself.

    Or you could accept that a war on the other side of the world is not it really influenced much (or at all) by your decisions so you instead you might go for a bicycle ride or go fishing. Something you would rather do than interact with content that you ‘don’t give a fuck about.’


















  • “Most toxic” depends on who’s annoyed this week, but there are a few recurring mental habits that reliably rot discourse without even trying.

    My biggest pet peeve is probably moral absolutism, often disguised as clarity. That’s the mindset where everything gets forced into clean categories of pure good vs pure evil, with zero tolerance for the rainbow of nuance.

    Next up is identity-as-proof. If someone is in Group X, then they must believe Y, and any counterexample is treated as an anomaly or betrayal. It saves effort because you don’t have to think, just sort people into bins and react accordingly.

    Then there’s algorithmic certainty syndrome, which is more modern and a bit more subtle. People get used to feeds that reinforce their priors so efficiently that disagreement starts to feel like statistical noise. So instead of updating beliefs, they just escalate confidence. Nothing says “epistemic humility” like being completely wrong with confidence.

    Another one is transactional morality: “If I’m right, I’m allowed to be as harsh as I want.” Which turns every disagreement into a license for cruelty, as if correctness automatically comes with behavioral immunity.

    And underneath a lot of it is something simpler and more disconcerting: comfort with not understanding things before judging them. People are so eager to tell others what they are by labeling them and defining them rather than simply talking about themselves (you… vs. I…)