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Cake day: October 4th, 2023
  • cleanandsunny@literature.cafetopolitics @lemmy.world•This can't be real can it?
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    10 days ago
    • Ireland and Italy offer citizenship by descent, but it is a long process
    • The Netherlands and the US have a treaty called DAFT that allows you to start a business in NL
    • France offers a self employment visa
    • Check skill shortage lists for countries of interest - almost all European countries need skilled trades, truck drivers, etc. that wouldn’t require a degree
    • Study abroad; it’s possible you could apply and receive funding for a degree since many countries have free education + work study arrangements for your living expenses
    • Teach English abroad
    • Look at international NGOs, you could possibly get hired as an admin/etc. without a degree but that might be a stretch
  • cleanandsunny@literature.cafetoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Why are vegan and gluten free items more expensive?
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    3 months ago

    I think others have covered the economies of scale and niche products creating the disparity.

    But I wanted to suggest that if your grandpa is regularly eating gluten free bread, we have found that making it at home is SO much more affordable than buying a loaf at the store. (Even though gluten free flour is also more expensive.) Most of the gluten free flours have their own sandwich bread recipe, either on the bag or their website. I don’t know what flours you have access to, but they can be wildly different blends, so using their tested recipes is always best.

    We’ve mastered our favorite so it takes only 15 minutes of “work” and then just time in the oven. It’s also much better than store bought! I don’t know if that’s possible for you, but it could be a lovely weekly ritual for you and your grandpa.

    Also, to anyone suggesting we just eat rice and beans, I’m an old celiac. We went without bread, pasta, cake, pastries, cookies, brownies, pizza, and crackers before these products came to market. These are mostly “fun” foods that I don’t eat regularly, but usually pop up in social situations. Do you know how many sad birthdays with no cake we’ve had? How often we’ve watched our friends and family eat things we could never have? I am so grateful to the “fad” gluten free people who made it possible to have culturally/socially important foods we were missing out on for decades!!

  • cleanandsunny@literature.cafetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's an annoying habit your cat has that inconveniences you that you just sorta live with?
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    4 months ago

    Our 15 year old has a new habit of coming into the kitchen every time we do, and stretching out directly in the middle of the walkway so he is in the way at all times. We have a pretty decent sized space, but he’s a very long cat when he wants to be. I feel like he defies the laws of physics because I don’t understand how he’s in the way literally everywhere. It makes me crazy.

    So when we cook, which is usually 2-3 times a day, it’s like, need to open the oven? Cat. Need to get into the fridge? Cat! Sink? Cat. Oh, I need to dry my hands? Cat. We have definitely stepped on him by accident since he started doing this, but he’s still undeterred. He has bad arthritis, so I don’t mind when he sits in front of the oven when it’s on, because at least that one makes sense. (He has multiple heated beds too; don’t feel bad for him.) But it’s like, I would love to be able to grab water from the kitchen or feed the dog or do literally anything in there without almost stepping on my cat.

  • cleanandsunny@literature.cafetoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•would you recommend to work 2 to 4 weekend days per month to earn a bit of extra money if you already have a full time position?
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    4 months ago

    I always find that starting any new job is exhausting! There is so much to learn - not even the “work” itself, but processes, personalities, and systems that differ from workplace to workplace. Unless you are struggling hard financially, give yourself some time. For me, it takes at least 4-6 months in a new job to feel ready to add something else. (Now that I own my own business, it’s just adding the next thing in the business…then 4-6 months later, the next thing…). You will have to feel out your own balance and where you can draw the line. I don’t think it’s a bad idea to make more money, if that’s a goal. But you can’t do it at the expense of your sanity, relationships, health, etc. Make it sustainable.

    I’m in the US for context, but have lived all over the world, and don’t participate in the hustle culture here. I work hard for my clients and there are crunch times, but on average it’s about 30-35 hours a week. That’s a sweet spot for me! I hope you find yours.

  • cleanandsunny@literature.cafetoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Has there ever been a compilation of suicide notes, if so, where can one get it? And is it a good idea to get it?
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    4 months ago

    I don’t know about the notes, but I wanted to say that it takes time and effort to unlearn this idea that we are supposed to be productive all the time. This is a lie that many powerful people want us to internalize so we work ourselves to death, and it’s very insidious and omnipresent. It’s become a perverse “value” in our society at large and something to be proud of.

    But you are not a machine. You’re a person. And that means you need and deserve rest and comfort.

    You have inherent worth outside of your productivity, how hard you work, or how much money you make.

    Those metrics don’t tell us anything about how you are as a person, your values, your kindness, your strengths, the joy you bring others.

    ALL of that stuff has value. Real true value. You have to start challenging these beliefs about your worthiness. Because you are already worthy.

    Some further reading/resources:

    1. The Body Is Not An Apology
    2. Rest is Resistance
    3. Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle