Kay Ohtie

I’ve cried at my psychologist place multiple times but each time was not because of her. It was welling up of deep, un-addressed feelings, or a sense of relief of some kind, or sometimes pure catharsis.

Sessions were often exhausting but because of being emotionally engaging and being about things that were deeply emotional to me. I apologized several times for becoming overwhelmed, feeling weird as a chubby grown man breaking down, but she always reassured in a way that made me feel safe, un-judged.

Her goal was always to help me work through last traumas and keep improving living on my own. And she helped tremendously.

There’s definitely some crap therapists out there, and some who are great at some things but terrible with others. Then there’s some who have studied thoroughly and keep up-to-date to help people, because even if it’s taxing for them, their passion is in helping people.

Don’t dismiss horror stories or the fear; dismissal isn’t helpful. Guiding instead with positives, with some good to help ease the fears, is far more helpful.

Great job on something like this! I’ll probably give it a whirl soon, I like Nextcloud but find it clunky sometimes because it’s often a bit more than I need. Maybe breaking it up into Immich + this would help! Thank you for sharing your project!

One thing to note, your comparison against Nextcloud has a partially-incorrect point regarding file upload max size. The client does upload chunking, so is unaffected by the Cloudflare issue as well, but I believe the web client is still affected, just not the apps. https://docs.nextcloud.com/server/latest/admin_manual/configuration_files/big_file_upload_configuration.html#adjust-chunk-size-on-nextcloud-side

I suspect a few others may be as well, but I’m only familiar with the Nextcloud one because that’s what I’ve been running, and discovered in making sure I could still upload video files recorded while out and about.

Also love that it looks like a simpler install!

As someone living in a red state, every city here is referred to as a “blue city”, whether people are moving to it or not. State color has shit all to do with it and tends to be how much did we make the assumption land votes.

I could just remap in the emulator too, just hadn’t felt up to such.

Same. Not married, but my partner always had to put in earplugs when I slept with them because I snored so loud, and they were always silent with their CPAP, which was oddly soothing of a sound. Finally got diagnosed after my doctor AND partner both pressured me to. I sleep fairly soundly most nights now. Even got a new mask type yesterday, a minimal contact full face, and I love it. Just gotta adjust my mustache maintenance routine which…to be fair it was already in dire need of, being bushy and rough and uncomfortable, and that upper edge pushing the hairs right back into my face made that all the more obvious. Oof.

I find myself having to use my Switch pro controller when playing Wii U games on PC, because if I use my Xbox controller I get fucked up on button locations. But somehow holding the slightly different controller shape and button size makes my muscle memory switch for it cleanly.

“Without user consent” is a load of crap.

Honestly the scale makes me wonder how much is because it’s fucking AI bots.

I thought that’d been done already, but if I recall, the vast majority of their funding has come from members for a long time? I’m more concerned about the impact on foreign aid than on them.

Generally, finding the article on the exact same thing at NPR.

More specifically I’d say is go over events and be consistent in recalling then repeatedly. Dreams at least are too shuffled for that unless you’re like, super lucid, and even then it seems to only maintain for so long.

Open-source training texts intended for pairing with your intended style of output have been around for far longer than OpenAI has been grifting data from the entire Internet and collected book works. It came across like that’s what they’re using, not some shit off HuffingFarce that was built off of AO3 and Harry Potter.

Struggling to read all the comments on mobile so apologies if this is a duplicate, but if you need recipes, Tandoor Recipes. I use it for hosting my own edits of recipes. Since I do baking streams it’s great for me to easily link to my stream for folks who want the same recipe including any tips I’ve added or variations, or something I’ve kinda come up with that’s based off a standard formula.

Plus, using the Kitshn app on a tablet makes for an absolutely gorgeous kitchen companion for reading recipes. Split screening it between the recipe and the chat has been awesome. For real, Kitshn is absurdly polished for an open source app.

I have mine configured with my SSO (Authentik) for login. It’s nice being able to single pane login, and for services where it makes sense, utilize the LDAP outpost feature to login with the same username and password at least (Jellyfin, calibre-web).

Probably rewrite gateway rules. I believe that’s the rule I use for forwarding out over Cloudflare WARP when my ISP is shitting a brick. All I have to do is toggle like one thing now to make it work instantly for all local traffic. Probably just need the same rule applying on the inbound VPN side.

Yeah, I use Authentik currently and the main reason is simplicity of having it with LDAP. But I’ve considered running something else backed by FreeIPA to get more compatibility for LDAP. I feel like I have to fight to get something to work with it.

But it has some high overhead for sure.

I keep wondering if you could get him to do something truly stupid to himself this way.

Oh for sure. It’s still only in that like 5% range but what I meant was folks treat it like it’s new and like…nah.

I hate it. I haven’t run into anyone directly doubting my ADHD at all lately, but as a kid I definitely faced that stigma from some other kids saying it’s “fake”, and I think one of the teachers even said it.

I think the bigger difference is “I don’t believe but I also don’t think others are wrong” is a kind of mentality often. I think that and people are used to seeing self-proclaimed atheists being assholes loudly and go “well I’m not that”. Atheism got fucked over by people who just want to be dicks to religious folks.

It explains so much when it’s played up so heavily in talk shows, despite the reality always having been very minor. Honestly I didn’t realize me being gay was that much of a minority either. I kind of wish ADHD had been one in the list; if I remember the reality is like no more than 3-5% of the population but people assume it’s over diagnosed as hell and like…not really. Maybe when there was the initial “rush” of sorts for parents during the 90’s because of it seeming to help “unruly” kids, often just meaning imaginative or creative. In my case my parents didn’t even know until my kindergarten teacher told them I should get evaluated, and yep.

One of the Bioware devs posted that something like 92% of players were heavily to entirely Paragon despite them putting a lot of effort into Renegade content. People want to care about others, even virtual folks. You get invested.