I just wanted to tell you how great you all are.
I moved to Lemmy shortly before the mass exodus from Reddit in 2023. I eventually created an instance of my own and to begin with, leaving Reddit felt like a mistake.
I could browse Lemmy’s equivalent of /r/all top-last-24-hours in about 15 minutes, so my doom-scroll time plummeted. I was better for it. However, I still yearned for the meme laughs and thought provoking comment threads of Reddit. Lemmy had them, but they were much fewer.
Fast forward to today. My instance is hosting a popular up and coming community, of which I’m honoured, even if I’m not welcome. The top-24-hour of all posts is now more than enough to satisfy my needs. I laugh at memes, I get to share posts I found on Lemmy with friends and family, I’m exposed to more cultures than just American which is a real refreshing change.
It isn’t mainstream, and I think its better for it. It has its own culture, and we are beginning to get all meta with Lemmy in-jokes which I think is both annoying and awesome at the same time (ie. Hussain memes).
Overall, I am just really happy for Lemmy and am glad to be sharing it with all of you. May the good times continue.
!WomensStuff@lazysoci.al is for women only. I don’t fit the requirements :)
Sorry to double post, but now I just saw a post there from its … main? only? … moderator, and now its apparently ‘woman and non binary’…
…so ok, not just women anymore, I guess?..but uh… I am a guy who is generally cishet presenting, but also has cosplayed as female characters, done… not quite dragshows, but basically gender norm swap themed parties, I’ve helped a whole lot of romantic and platonic female friends put together their own outfits and makeup styles, and visa versa, and I sometimes will just incorperate articles of clothing literally sized for and advertised as womens clothes into my normal dress… but I don’t identify as nb, because ultimately I am comfortable with the moniker of ‘male’, I just think ‘maleness’ can or should extend beyond the stereotypical social ‘presentation’ norms…
Yep, I got no clue at this point whether or not my presence there is allowed or not.
You should message one of the mods and ask
Ah, ok. Understandable. For some reason I thought of actual drama. I am a real troglodyte in that regard and can’t help it.
Which is a fundamentally unenforceable rule unless you rely on posters to go out of their way and be polite enough to say ‘hey I’m not a woman but I appreciate many topics of discussion here.’
Before I realized that ‘girls only’ was an actual rule, I made several comments there that were generally popular, and only the ones where I added a ‘I am a guy, but here is how I would approach this woman’s fashion’ type comments… those ones, I got asked to leave, with other commenters saying ‘no, let them stay!’, and the ones where I didn’t mention I am a guy, they just got upvoted and spawned other silly convos.
Oh well, I guess?
Decentralization working as intended ✊