• mavu@discuss.tchncs.de
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    6 days ago

    Nice notion, but won’t work.
    Those people will happily list every women they know, however distant.
    Many men don’t even have a concept for this kind of “trust”.

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        5 days ago

        My girlfriend trusts me pretty much with her life, I think. Her mom, trusts me not to rob their house since I have a key (she lives with her parents) All the women I have a work related relationship with trust me at least to the extent of being in the same room together, I’m sure.

        So yeah, not hard to think of people who have an amount of trust to say the very least, but yeah, I too wonder how much trust the question is really asking about.

        It’s just like saying “I could care less” - pretty sure a lot of women I know COULD trust me less, than they currently do. Which means there is at least a minimal amount of trust there.

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      6 days ago

      Who gives you the right to challenge if someone is truly “trusted” or not? You don’t know the person or the people they are citing, so you are just convicting men without any evidence at all.

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        6 days ago

        Not OP, but men tell us themselves. They tell us when we’re in a relationship and they say that no one else ever understood them like we do. They tell us when we see them talk about their loneliness across the internet. To deny it is to deny the pain that so many men admit for themselves, albeit only when in private or anonymous spaces.

        A lot of men don’t have this deep trust in their lives, and I say this not out of malice but out of sympathy and concern. You deserve to know the kind of trust referenced here.

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          6 days ago

          Valid, but you still can’t assume that’s the experience for EVERY man. Plenty of men are 100% trusted by those around them. My father was one of them. I have never spoken to anyone who didn’t view my father with true respect, including my mother. Trustworthy men exist, but women are taught to NEVER trust ANY man, no matter what. And BTW, plenty of women aren’t trustworthy either.

          If we can ever get the political issues in this country settled to some extent (wishful thinking), we need to focus on the war between the sexes.

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            6 days ago

            you still can’t assume that’s the experience for EVERY man.

            Yep, which is why the rest of us are using words like “many,” “most,” and “a lot of.”