No, this is “no stupid questions”

“I should be allowed to mock you, but you shouldn’t be allowed to do anything about it” < your words

Isn’t not giving Dave Chappelle money or time or attention the grand sum of things that you can do about his stance without violence?

I think you and I have had interactions elsewhere on Lemmy, and typically they’re very antagonistic and I don’t know why that is.

I earnestly try to be a reasonable person and to express my views without judgment of other people.

I do this in hopes that debate produces something positive, but from what I remember, typically, no matter what I say to you, your response is to exacerbate the argument rather than resolve it.

Sometimes other people have views that do not mesh with yours, yet they are not your enemy.

I know trans people. I have trans friends. I live in a very progressive area by choice. I have gone to protests to protect women and trans people alike.

I am an ally, and if you think that me believing or having a reason to believe that Dave Chappelle is also an ally makes me not an ally, then that’s pretty much the end of the conversation, right?

Are you suggesting violence as an appropriate response to his commentary?

Have you encountered anyone who has been emboldened to commit either emotional or physical crimes against another person because of something Dave Chappelle has said or done?

If so, then I’m more than willing to change the way I view his schtick, but I cannot find any correlation between an increase in any sort of hurt or violence towards trans people, and anything Dave Chappelle has said or done.

I think he’s serving as a pressure release valve for the people who have never encountered a trans person (who was not masking their transness) or who have suddenly been thrust into the realization that the world contains trans people and don’t know how to cope with it.

Therefore I feel like the things that he says have an overall net positive effect on the way trans people are treated, even though he himself looks and sounds like a piece of shit saying it and that he offends trans people when he says it.

None of his kids are genetically his as far as I know.

I’ve heard rumors that he was either physically or chemically castrated to keep his beautiful, pure singing voice.

If that is the case, then it would kind of explain how fucked up he is, or how fucked up he was.

I honestly think that he is a subversive ally.

Like, the things that he says, the way that he says them pisses off trans people and gets the anti-trans people on his side.

But then he also preaches a philosophy of live and let live, do whatever the fuck you want to do, just leave me alone and let me live my life, which also goes to his enemies.

So there are probably people who have transphobia, who like Dave Chappelle, who leave trans people alone, or quickly identify themselves to trans people by making a Dave Chappelle joke or reference, and therefore, incidentally, protect trans people from interacting with people that might otherwise do bad things to them.

I could be wrong. He might just be an asshole. He probably is an asshole either way. I’m not a stan for him, but that’s the vibe that I get from his whole act.

And when he acts shitty towards somebody, he does it publicly, where he himself can also receive the backlash from what he is doing.

He’s not attempting to build a reputation as being a nice guy or a thought leader or anything. He is getting shit done, and anyone that’s got a problem with it or him can either go do it better than him or stfu

was immediately arrested by ICE and deported to Guatemala.

And in the rare case where they do not forgive the debt and you do not pay, at some point they write it off for the tax break.

I’m sure they write it off at the original invoiced amount without any discounts so that their tax deduction for you not paying is probably equal to or greater than what they would have made had you paid it.

If you’re from the Midwest, that’s how you get cornbred.

In theory, it’s because both competitors were armed and prepared for the outcome.

You having a “moment of passion” on the sidewalk at 3 a.m. with a random passerby who didn’t even see the baseball bat being swung doesn’t really match up.

Me

Probably whoever the leader of Taiwan is.

And this song is for OP in the back. It’s called “We Hate You, Please Die.”

Don’t fuck with the Bonneville power administration. Don’t even breathe their name.

Cross them and you’ll be buried under the tarmac of the local airport faster than you can die from the heat of the hot asphalt solidifying over your screaming soon to be corpse

Rather than following you around, they should go to where the entertainment is and advertise there.

I have no problem seeing an advertisement for something I’m interested in when I’m looking at something I’m interested in that is also directly connected to that thing.

For the most part, I only marginally skip past sponsored stuff on YouTube, for instance.

Or when a tech reviewer is reviewing a piece of tech that I might be interested in buying, that’s excellent marketing.

But if I’m talking to my friends and they tell me about a cool widget that they like and then I go home and I turn on my computer and in a completely different environment, an advertisement for that widget pops up while I’m looking for something completely different, then I get really, really upset and it guarantees that I will never purchase that widget.

We chartered the seas by onions belt, which was the fashion at the time.

1: Put a set amount of your paycheck by percentage into a savings account before you ever see it.

Aim for at least 10%, but if that’s too much because our economy is fucked, do 1% of your take home pay. You make $500 a month, you put $5 a fucking month into a savings account.

If you can’t do that out of your paycheck, find a way to take on an odd job to make up that difference.

It’s stupid. It’s tiny. It feels pointless.

It’s incredibly important.

2: Learn how to live below your means. I don’t care if you’re a crypto millionaire or a homeless person living on the street, you have to find a way to live off of less than what you have and take the excess that you generate and put it into savings or investments of some type, something that can support you when shit gets bad bad.

3: When you find yourself with extra time, don’t just sit around and binge watch TV or doom scroll.

Definitely get your binge watching and doom scrolling in at appropriate times, but if you find yourself with two or three hours with nothing to do, call up a friend and go try to hang out with them.

In your 20s, friends are popping out of the woodwork for you.

But only the ones that you cultivate and continuously put just a tiny little drop of effort into will still be there when you are 50 or 60.

And it’s a lot of fun to hang out with your friends. It’s far more rewarding than any doom-scrolling you will ever do.

If you find yourself without friends, for whatever reason, try to find something new to do that takes place in a specific location on a regular schedule.

Nothing makes friends faster than repeated interaction over a period of time.

When I was a homeless teenager, I was out driving around a suburb of the rural deep south town I lived in.

It was around midnight and all of a sudden, a young, beautiful Asian girl wearing white poofy boots and a white fur coat jumped out in the street and flagged me down.

Mostly in amazement, I stopped and asked her what was going on, but she had very poor English.

She asked me for a ride, but she couldn’t properly say the name of where she wanted to go.

I said sure, why not? It’s not like I have anything else to do, so I brought her with me, and I kept asking her trying to get an understanding of where she wanted to go, and eventually I realized she needed to go to the downtown area to one of the larger hotels there.

So finally having figured out her destination, I took her there, even though I was almost out of gas and it’s not like I had a lot of money to replace it.

I don’t think I’ll ever forget the way her face lit up when we arrived at the hotel, and she finally knew where she was.

I pulled into the valet area, and she got out, and I was about to drive off when she stuck her head back in and gave me a surprise kiss on the cheek, which at the time meant that she was only the second person to have ever kissed me.

I still smile about that, because I didn’t expect it.

I was just glad to be of help.

That’s one of my fondest memories of having an opportunity to do something for somebody else. Every once in a while, I think about her, and I hope she’s doing okay.

I hate to be the person to throw a brick into a spinning washing machine, but chill out.

You’re probably talking to somebody who would agree with you, someone who would be a friend.

You have a lot of absolutely righteous and justified anger about a situation that they’re attempting to make light of. I can see how you would take that personally. I also would take it personally if I were in your shoes.

Even though this situation is what it is, it’s still a good idea to attempt to drizzle a little honey on the words that you use to communicate it with them so that you can pull them to your side and explain your reasoning without pushing them out of the social group, right?