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    15 hours ago

    I dunno, I think he looks good. He has noticeably more muscle than the average guy on the street, and I’d imagine that if he didn’t work out he’d look worse with general flabbiness.

    I had a similar build in my late 20’s. At one point, I had just started dating someone new, and I said something self deprecating or playful about my own body, and she outright scoffed at me, and blurted out “what the fuck are you talking about, you’ve got an amazing body” and it was just the little jolt of self esteem boost I didn’t know I was looking for.

    Understanding the difference between bodies one would have working out for a year versus not working out that year is important. It’s still a significant difference that people notice, even if there’s another significant difference between the one-year guy and the professional fitness model in the magazines.



  • Everybody’s punching up.

    The diversity in preferences makes “up” impossible to define and order consistently between people. If you take a survey of a population for an ordered ranking, in desire ability as potential spouses, of a particular sample set, you might get wildly different rankings.

    And then those same people might rank things differently depending on who they would most want to have a one night stand with.

    Even laying out specific physical characteristics and asking about attractiveness will get those isolated features ranked differently. Heterosexual men will disagree on whether it is attractive, unattractive or neutral for a woman to be:

    • Being very tall
    • Being very short
    • Having an athletic build
    • Having pale skin
    • Having curly hair
    • Having tattoos
    • Having a Ph.D.
    • Speaking multiple languages
    • Being Christian
    • Being vegetarian

    We’re all just looking for compatibility. What that means will vary from person to person, and what is very attractive to one person might be a huge turn off to another.

    I’m generally of the view that you want to be with someone whose unique traits are positive to you, and who sees your unique traits as positives, too. That way both can fall within that stable equilibrium of both believing that they’ve married “up.”






  • Late to this thread, but I’ve found that it goes well with fresh watermelon, muddled mint, and lime. Play around with the sugar/acid/alcohol ratios that you like, and find something that works. I usually do:

    2 oz Singani
    1 oz lime juice
    4 oz watermelon juice
    0.5 oz simple syrup
    2 to 6 muddled mint leaves

    I find that when I use fresh juice, I can get good texture if I shake it, even without egg white or other foaming agent.

    I usually serve in a Collins glass with ice, but sometimes I’ll serve up in a coupe or Nick and Nora glass.